We were usually advised to never talk to strangers from early childhood. This is certainly smart advice for kids to follow in many circumstances since they don’t have enough ability to know the difference between someone offering them candies to kidnap and someone offering help to solve their problems. But it’s not a perfect rule we should keep as adults. David Sax discussed the topic “Why Strangers Are Good for Us”, which was published in New York Times on June 12th, 2022, to demonstrate why we should be more open-hearted and welcome strangers into our lives. Through his article, I was convinced and inclined to believe that engaging with occasional strangers can have surprising advantages to our well-being.
Sax states that everyone need at least the basic minimum of communication and it would be tremendously disrespectful to ignore somebody’s greetings in the old era. The writer also emphasizes our social contract is built on interactions with strangers; he supports this view by pointing out that apart from our biological relatives, everyone including our spouse, soulmate, and best friend was someone we had never known before talking to them. Once again, Sax presents that strangers not only represent one of our most valuable and plentiful resources but also bring us closer to the community, cultivate civility, and are full of potential amazement. Another study published last fall reminds us how beneficial strangers are, that we are not only easier to open ourselves up and express our emotional feelings as well as darkest secrets with strangers but also feel more comfortable and better with them. Furthermore, Sax highlights that due to the advancement of technology, we create antipathy towards unknown people, and we try to avoid talking to or greeting them by concentrating on our smart devices. Another point that the author of the article makes is that the recent pandemic is a potential reason that leads to the absence of interaction between us. Throughout his article, he articulates our connections with strangers are significant pillars in our life and we should greet them in a friendly way.
I agree with Sax’s viewpoint that engaging in conversations with strangers can enhance empathy, happiness, and cognitive development, strengthen our sense of belonging, and connect us to the world. As Sax describes this idea, “Far from human inconveniences, strangers are actually one of the richest and most important resources we have. They connect us to the community, teach us empathy, build civility, and are full of surprise and potentially wonder. ” I do believe that sometimes strangers can teach us a lot such as giving advice on life’s issues, listening to our stories, and sharing their experiences and their divergent perspectives. When we interact with people we don’t know, we get the chance to break out of our comfort zone and change our outlook on reality altogether. They also inspire us with creative ideas to think about, and plenty more to acknowledge. To prove my point, let’s take the example of my own story. I work as a receptionist at a nail shop and we have many customers walk in. One day, I met a gentle Filipino woman, who is a nurse in Northshore hospital, and had a deep conversation with her during the service; I confided to her that I struggled with my future job decision; I truly want to be a nurse but I wonder if I have good capability to pursue this path. Then she recommended a lot of books, taught me about appropriate behavior in the workplace, and gave me tons of advice and tips to study well in nursing school as well as diminish financial burdens. Fortunately, she also told me that “When you complete your CNA license, just talk to me, and I am willing to refer you to the hospital’s manager for a position. ” Then I recognized our lives can be affected in extraordinary ways by engaging in unexpected, friendly conversations with strangers. They have so much to offer us, they hold the potential keys to all kinds of knowledge that we want and help us understand more about people and how we relate to each other.
Moreover, I agree with Sax that passing interactions with strangers can increase mental sharpness, improve trust and ease the sense of loneliness and isolation. Sax indicates, “A study published last fall showed that despite our fears of awkwardness, deep, meaningful conversations with strangers are not only easier than expected but also left participants feeling better about themselves. ” I read a social science book last year and I learned something incredibly ironic about interpersonal communication called closeness-communication bias. To demonstrate, once we feel close to someone, there is an unconscious tendency to tune them out because we assume we already know what they are going to say. Additionally, because we are afraid of judgment, misunderstanding, and overreacting from our families, we feel so much more comfortable and relieved to confide our secrets to strangers. Nowadays, together with the pace of the advancement of technology, we have numerous social media sites including Facebook, Twitter, Omegle, etc. to connect with random people all around the world and expand our relationships. Whenever I am confused, overwhelmed, and have to deal with frustrating family affairs, I usually browse these social networking sites to find someone who will listen to me. I am aware that not everyone will respond positively when I approach them, but I don’t have to take it personally because we don’t know each other well.
Overall, this article is well-drafted with the researchers, easy to comprehend, and contains strong evidence. His article changed my mindset on how I will be interacting with strangers from now on. Regarding the question of “are stranger good for us”, I would say definitely yes, they are one of the indispensable factors in our life. However, in my opinion, I believe everything always has 2 sides: benefits and drawbacks. Although strangers bring us many advantages, they are still intimidating with some potential dangers. To overcome these difficulties, we should be aware of our surroundings and know how to defend ourselves, stay away from people we feel uncomfortable with, be respectful and make the effort to communicate with strangers, and should not push it if people don’t reciprocate. Instead of thinking it’s a foolish idea to believe in people, we can enjoy and spend time with those we know while still being cautious and friendly to those we don’t. After all, aren’t we all strangers until we get to know each other?
We were
usually
advised to never talk to
strangers
from early childhood. This is
certainly
smart advice for kids to follow in
many
circumstances since they don’t have
enough
ability to
know
the difference between
someone
offering them candies to kidnap and
someone
offering
help
to solve their problems.
But
it’s not a perfect
rule
we should
keep
as adults. David Sax discussed the topic “Why
Strangers
Are
Good
for Us”, which
was published
in New York Times on June 12th, 2022, to demonstrate why we should be more open-hearted and welcome
strangers
into our
lives
. Through his
article
, I
was convinced
and inclined to
believe
that engaging with occasional
strangers
can have surprising advantages to our well-being.
Sax states that everyone need at least the basic minimum of communication and it would be
tremendously
disrespectful to
ignore
somebody’s greetings in the
old
era. The writer
also
emphasizes our
social
contract
is built
on interactions with
strangers
; he supports this view by pointing out that apart from our biological relatives, everyone including our spouse, soulmate, and best friend was
someone
we had never known
before
talking to them. Once again, Sax presents that
strangers
not
only
represent one of our most valuable and plentiful resources
but
also
bring us closer to the community, cultivate civility, and are full of
potential
amazement. Another study published last fall reminds us how beneficial
strangers
are, that we are not
only
easier to open ourselves up and express our emotional feelings
as well
as darkest secrets with
strangers
but
also
feel
more comfortable and better with them.
Furthermore
, Sax highlights that due to the advancement of technology, we create antipathy towards unknown
people
, and we try to avoid talking to or greeting them by concentrating on our smart devices. Another point that the author of the
article
makes
is that the recent pandemic is a
potential
reason that leads to the absence of interaction between us. Throughout his
article
, he articulates our connections with
strangers
are significant pillars in our life and we should greet them in a friendly way.
I
agree
with Sax’s viewpoint that engaging in
conversations
with
strangers
can enhance empathy, happiness, and cognitive development, strengthen our sense of belonging, and connect us to the world. As Sax
describes
this
idea
, “Far from human inconveniences,
strangers
are actually one of the richest and most
important
resources we have. They connect us to the community, teach us empathy, build civility, and are full of surprise and
potentially
wonder. ” I do
believe
that
sometimes
strangers
can teach us a lot such as giving advice on life’s issues, listening to our stories, and sharing their experiences and their divergent perspectives. When we interact with
people
we don’t
know
, we
get
the chance to break out of our comfort zone and
change
our outlook on reality altogether. They
also
inspire us with creative
ideas
to
think
about, and
plenty
more to acknowledge. To prove my point,
let
’s take the example of my
own
story. I work as a receptionist at a nail shop and we have
many
customers walk in. One day, I met a gentle Filipino woman, who is a nurse in Northshore hospital, and had a deep
conversation
with her during the service; I confided to her that I struggled with my future job decision; I
truly
want to be a nurse
but
I wonder if I have
good
capability to pursue this path. Then she recommended
a lot of
books, taught me about appropriate behavior in the workplace, and gave me tons of advice and tips to study well in nursing school
as well
as diminish financial burdens.
Fortunately
, she
also
told
me that “When you complete your CNA license,
just
talk to me, and I am willing to refer you to the hospital’s manager for a position. ” Then I recognized our
lives
can be
affected
in extraordinary ways by engaging in unexpected, friendly
conversations
with
strangers
. They have
so
much to offer us, they hold the
potential
keys to all kinds of knowledge that we want and
help
us understand more about
people
and how we relate to each other.
Moreover
, I
agree
with Sax that passing interactions with
strangers
can increase mental sharpness,
improve
trust and
ease
the sense of loneliness and isolation. Sax indicates, “A study published last fall
showed
that despite our fears of awkwardness, deep, meaningful
conversations
with
strangers
are not
only
easier than
expected
but
also
left
participants feeling better about themselves. ” I read a
social
science book last year and I learned something
incredibly
ironic about interpersonal communication called closeness-communication bias. To demonstrate, once we
feel
close to
someone
, there is an unconscious tendency to tune them out
because
we assume we already
know
what they are going to say.
Additionally
,
because
we are afraid of judgment, misunderstanding, and overreacting from our families, we
feel
so
much more comfortable and relieved to confide our secrets to
strangers
. Nowadays, together with the pace of the advancement of technology, we have numerous
social
media sites including Facebook, Twitter, Omegle, etc. to connect with random
people
all around the world and expand our relationships. Whenever I
am confused
, overwhelmed, and
have to
deal with frustrating family affairs, I
usually
browse these
social
networking sites to find
someone
who will listen to me. I am aware that not everyone will respond
positively
when I approach them,
but
I don’t
have to
take it
personally
because
we don’t
know
each other well.
Overall
, this
article
is well-drafted with the researchers, easy to comprehend, and contains strong evidence. His
article
changed
my mindset on how I will be interacting with
strangers
from
now
on. Regarding the question of “are
stranger
good
for us”, I would say definitely yes, they are one of the indispensable factors in our life.
However
, in my opinion, I
believe
everything always has 2 sides: benefits and drawbacks. Although
strangers
bring us
many
advantages, they are
still
intimidating with
some
potential
dangers
. To overcome these difficulties, we should be aware of our surroundings and
know
how to defend ourselves, stay away from
people
we
feel
uncomfortable with, be respectful and
make
the effort to communicate with
strangers
, and should not push it if
people
don’t reciprocate.
Instead
of thinking it’s a foolish
idea
to
believe
in
people
, we can enjoy and spend time with those we
know
while
still
being cautious and friendly to those we don’t.
After all
, aren’t we all
strangers
until we
get
to
know
each other?