issues to be resolved around sibling rivalry

The rivalry between siblings is always a painful problem that makes parents tired whenever they solve it. However, according to the article “Sibling rivalry causes long-term psychological harm, but parents should leave squabbling teens to it to avoid further damage” by Alex Gore, parents should help you handle competition properly and create a healthy race at the same time. Therefore, I will summarize the article and will reflect on what I have learned from the article In the article, Alex Gore believes that sibling rivalry will cause negative psychological effects, and to solve that best, parents should set rules in the family. Let the children deal with it and deal with each other. Studies also show that parental intervention and trying to be the judge can have enormous and lasting psychological effects on children. The author quoted Nicole Campione-Barr as saying that setting rules and time between housework and game time would be best to reduce conflict, but should not be biased too much. According to which a research group at an American university showed that quarrels fall into two categories - equal and fair. Conflicts over violations of personal space and property are associated with increased anxiety and lowered self-esteem. While the conflict over issues of equality and equity is associated with increased depression. Adolescents in mixed-gender sibling pairs have lower self-esteem than boys with older brothers or sisters with more anxiety. The study also warns parents to respect the individual needs of teenagers. But sometimes they have to directly intervene or seek professional help especially if violence occurs. Indeed, the effects of sibling rivalry can be felt beyond the siblings themselves. They affect the whole family. In particular, parents feel frustrated and stressed when their children get jealous and fight. According to StudyCorgi, sibling conflicts will affect both as they grow up and the relationship in the family will get worse. Through the above article, Alex Gore also has given very clear evidence and arguments on how to deal with sibling rivalry. I agree with the author that parents should set family rules and divide housework and playtime among siblings. I think that setting rules in the family will help children follow the rules and strictly follow them, which implicitly creates fairness, helps siblings unite and fight fairly. Along with that, the division of housework and reasonable playtime will help siblings not be jealous in housework as well as private time. From my own experience, my family consists of three siblings and I am the second child. Not only my parents, but almost all parents tend to pamper the latter children more because they believe that the youngest is young and needs to be pampered. Since having a younger sister, I have also become jealous when my parents pay more attention to my sister than I do, which leads to a lot of arguments between me and her. But then as I grew up, I gradually realized that giving and pampering you is an obvious thing in life. I'm probably pretty lucky to have grown up in a good parenting environment so I'm not complaining about that. Therefore, the article giving the above solution is not 100% correct. In my opinion, in addition to setting rules and division, they should actively talk in private and advise the older children that it is completely normal to pamper and yield to the younger brother. Because this has been a Vietnamese tradition, it has become a concept today. Even Vietnam has a poem called "Lam Anh" by Phan Thi Thanh Nhan. This is a poem about a brother expressing his love for his little sister. The poem shows that being a brother is to yield, pat, love and cherish your sister little by little. So fair and equal treatment is sometimes actually quite right in all circumstances. Especially in Vietnam. Anyway, through the above article, I also understood more about the harm that sibling rivalry brings to not only themselves but also their parents and surrounding relatives. I also gained the knowledge to deal with sibling rivalry. This will be a method that I will probably incorporate and apply in the future as well. In short, Alex Gore's article is both a cautionary tale and a helping hand to help people understand how to deal with sibling rivalry. While the solution is not perfect, it is a good approach to adopt and help families who are having problems with siblings.